Leaving would not be a failure, Wong emphasises. “If the environment is really toxic, then I think looking after your well-being is important in the long term.” De Lima agrees: “Nobody will raise statues to us because we thrived in a situation that was hostile.”

Although you might feel justifiably angry, it’s best not to exit with a shower of recriminations. Given the close academic networks in many science, technology, engineering and mathematics fields, “you don’t want to leave a sour taste behind because there could be repercussions”, Wong warns.

This situation isn’t fair to you. But de Lima hopes that these suggestions for countering the harms you’re experiencing will help you to move towards the overall goal: “to remain whole while building a career in which you can thrive”.